But, it was something I found she had an emotional attachment and connection to that would be a great conversation starter. My advice: It’s not worth worrying or caring about. Never put your eggs in one basket, expecting a response from the person who seems like a perfect match for you.When you embark with online dating, you shouldn’t just expect rejection—you must embrace it and become its friend.I came along, read her profile and out of everything she mentioned, I decided to pick on that and use it as “ammo”to start a conversation. Much to her surprise, it was a comment in favour of something she wrote on her profile which caught my eye—rather than putting it in the message box, I put it in the title to grab her attention, and up till this day, I have kept it.It wasn’t the most interesting thing on her profile—that’d be quite sad. You may have similar interested, a compatible personality—you could be everything they are looking for, however even that may not be enough for some people.And when 80% of the messages are either, you can’t really blame them for not responding to most messages—even if you personalize your mails.The fact of the matter is that women receive far too much “unwanted” attention.From the countless amounts of people I’ve spoken to and taught, those who have succeeded online sent out well-thought messages to as many people as possible. Some people treat online dating like they’re at a Pic ‘N’ Mix shop.
Especially when you get rejected countless times, with or without reason.
Work and home responsibilities suck a lot of time out of the day and if you’re not meeting the kinds of people you’d like to in your area, then it may be your only option for meeting likeminded people.
If you’ve had many negative experiences which have left you lonely and isolated, the responses you receive online (or lack of), may push you further into a negative vicious cycle.
What is the point crafting a well-thought out message if it doesn’t get opened, or worse, seen?
How to fix this: Spin it on its head and give the headline more importance.